As I sat here thinking about my experience on Shine, I realized it has been a little over a year since my injury to my left knee, and right shoulder.

A year ago, I could not even feed myself, because it was so painful to lift my arm and hand. This is when I started my journey on Shine. Having to totally be dependent on my family gave me such a different insight to life. I have met and been blessed with too many to mention. Saying “thank you” just cannot express what I feel in my heart.

Yesterday, one of the friends I have known the longest said something in an email that brought back so many memories. I remember laughing until I cried over some of our posts. I remember sharing the joys, blessings, pain and the uncertainty of this last year.

Last year I was in a wheelchair, not able to walk. She told me yesterday, soon, I would be like a butterfly.

This also reminded me of an email I received about the struggle of a butterfly when emerging from it’s cocoon. Somebody  tried to help, by opening the cocoon to release the butterfly. However, the butterfly’s wings needed to be strengthened by it’s “fight” for it’s own for freedom. The butterfly died because it was released by the well meaning person.

This is my tribute to one of Shine’s finest women and friends, m@r!@, who has been there for me, motivating my wings to get strong and fly.

Man Plans, God Laughs

At the end of Rambo (the first one), after John Rambo has finished blasting and knifing everyone in the vicinity, he decides (perhaps not too surprisingly) not to hop on the army chopper that would bring him to civilization; but to return to the jungle.

“But…John…how will you live?” the amazed army guy asks him.

“Day to day,” Rambo says, before disappearing into the foliage.

Which is all very well if you’re in the jungle, but back here in civilization, you have to have short-term, long-term, and medium-term plans and goals and projects and deadlines– and they can be hard to keep track of.

Long term, I want to write a shelf-full of books and a stack of screenplays and a terabyte of blogs and an endless stream of newspaper columns, in an attempt to continue to give the world That Mack Daddy Feeling. Also, subtly, to pursue my secret agenda to (cue diabolical bwa-ha-ha-type laughter) change the world and bring it around to The Mack Daddy Point of View.

Mack knew from fairly early on I was a square peg, different. That in order for me and the world to be, as they say in the corporate world, “a good fit,” either I would have to change or the world would have to change.

And I ain’t changing’.

Long-term also, I hope to bring up my three boys to be fine upstanding citizens, gentlemen and ideally leaders of men who will steer our Ship of Folly in new directions; and be a good husband to my wife and keep her happy.

And be a good son to my own parents? Yee-ikes. Maybe they’ll just have to settle for me being as good a man as I can be, and that can be my contribution under the category “good son”?!?! Anyway, it’ll probably have to do for now.

Medium-term, I have to finish a book in record time; also to check that the choice of Grade 7 for my oldest kid was the right one, also to help him make the transition. And various other matters, including overseeing the assembly of a “soapbox racer,” a project which is threatening to require reassigning from the “medium term” to the “long range goals” category.

Short-term: Rambo-like, just get through the day. Groceries, baseball games, cat, dog, snakes, plants, cleaning supplies, what’s for dinner (fish, I’m thinking, for tonight)– with three kids and two careers, the list, the duty roster, is as long as your arm.

I’m not complaining. But when I think about it, sometimes I get a little…frightened. Anxious. And I throw up a prayer: “God, help me accomplish all the things I want to accomplish and still be a good father, good husband, good cook, and good person.”

God helps those who helps themselves, and I’m working my ass off. I have no ass! I worked it off long ago! I do nothing but work.

But still it’s hard not to drop the occasional thread. Forget a field trip, a birthday party. I totally spaced on a business-type lunch recently. I just didn’t show! I HATE it when people do that to me, but I did it to someone else!

From that moment on, I started writing ALL engagements in my calendar.

It’s good: really unclutters your thoughts. Write everything in the calendar so you can put it out of your mind and can focus on what’s important.

You always have to keep the big picture in mind; but you can put some of the mental bric-a-brac of the medium picture out of your cluttered coconut.

Then you can just live “day to day.” Which is really how it works no matter what you do. Each day is a microcosm of your life. Ladies and gentlemen, you have to make each one count!

Anyway…thus endeth today’s sermon. All I’m really trying to say is: maybe that musclebound meatball was onto something after all.

Main Causes of Swollen Uvula

The uvula palatina is actually a small projection conical structure hanging at the back of the throat. The most important functions of this gland is to articulate the sound during human speech and preventing food from entering the breathing passage. It also plays an important role in food swallowing in your throat. It is always confused with similar glands in your throat like tonsils and epiglottis. You can see it when open your mouth wide. Because of it important functions, it usually becomes inflammation or swelling by bacterial infection and when it gets infected and swollen, then swallowing and talking function of human are also affected. So it is very important to take good care of it.

Main Functions:

  • First, the main function is to prevent choking and food from entering the nasal cavity while you swallow.
  • Other function is that  it can be an effective alternative to drugs such as ipecac in order cause vomiting.
  • The uvula functions, together with the palate along with the back of the throat, palate, and air coming up from the lungs to create a variety of sounds used for human speech.


It has problems like swollen uvula due to many causes. This article are mentioned problems such as it swelling, redness, pain and infection.

  • Uvulitis: It is an extreme name when your uvula swollen. Uvulitis is usually caused by an infection, an injury to the back of the throat or an allergic reaction. A swollen uvula is a case where the uvula gets swollen to about 3-5 times than its normal size.. Due to the increased size, several signs can set in the mouth & body. It can also cause problems in your breathing, eating, and talking. Dehydration, snoring, drinking alcohol to much, excessive smoking, sometimes bacterial infection or viral infection could be one of the reasons for swelling uvula.
  • Bifid Uvula: A bifid uvula is a split or cleft uvula. As compared to the normal gland, bifid uvula muscle in them than a normal one. Bifid, this may cause problems in the middle ear. The soft palate is pushed backwards while swallowing, it choking and food from entering the nasal cavity. If the soft palate can’t touch back of the throat during the process of swallowing, it may cause food and drink can enter the nasal cavity. The splitting of uvula is found rarely in adults, however, newborns with cleft palate also have a split uvula.
  • Nasal Regurgitation: Uvula is important when swallow food, when you eating, the soft palate and uvula have function close the nasopharynx. This function prevents choking and food from entering the nasal cavity while you swallow. Sometimes, the failure of this function leads to nasal disgorgement.
  • Snoring and Sleep Apnea: The uvula also contribute to snoring or heavy breathing during sleep if person have elongated uvula, it can also cause vibrations which lead to the snoring problems. If scar tissue forms and the airspace in the velopharynx is decreased, elongated uvula also one of reasons of sleep apnea.
  • Velopharyngeal Insufficiency: In some people uvula does not close properly against the back of the throat, which can causing a condition known as velopharyngeal insufficiency.

What Are Painkillers


analgesia n. insesiblity to pain analgesic
1. adj. producing analgesia 2.n. a drug which does this

Painkillers, known as analgesics, relieve pain
without making a person unconscious. Almost everyone has used a painkiller in their
lifetime. The most commonly used analgesics are aspirin and anti-inflammatory drugs
such as ibuprofen. In addition to these are salicylates and acetaminophen all of
which you can get over the counter in a drugstore.

Painkillers fall into two different categories, narcotic and nonnarcotic. The
nonnarcotic painkillers are the most used of all medications. These analgesics not
only control pain but they can lower fever and stop inflammation, or swelling due
to injury or arthritis. The narcotic painkillers that are most used are codeine,
meperidine (Demerol) and morphine. These drugs are used on a short-term basis, normally
during an operation. Painkillers from the opium family, opiates and opioids are normally
only used for severe pain.

Over the counter medication contains no narcotic ingrediants. Many prescription
painkillers have a combination of narcotic and nonnarctoic elements. Common combinations
are acetaminophen and codein (Tylenol with Codeine) etc. These drugs are used where
nonnarcotic medicine do not adequately alleviate the pain etc.

Harmful Side-effects

Many painkillers have the ability to cause adverse reactions, especially
if taken with other drugs or in excess of the amount suggested. Taking too much of
any drug, even aspirin, can be harmful. Bleeding problems are among the most common
of the serious side effects which may occur. Please pay careful attention to dosage
and ask your doctor before taking medications together.

Alternative Treatments

Pain therapy can take many forms in addition or in liue of the normal
use of analgesics. Consider using some of the homeopathic remedies listed in the
main article and in books and journals commonly available in your bookstore. Consult
your doctor before mixing medications or starting on a new pain allieving regiment.
Alternative pain remedies include:

  • Acupuncture
  • Acupressure
  • Biofeedback
  • Hypnosis
  • Massage
  • Meditation
  • Relaxation training
  • Yoga

Self-treatment is an option. If you suffer from a chronic pain disorder such as
arthritis, you may have years of experience, through trial and error how to best
deal with the pain. Consider using exercise to increase the level of natural painkillers
in your body. We each produce endorphins, which are chemicals that sooth achy muscles
and act as painkillers. You may want to look into materials and products which correct
your posture at work and at home to elimitate difficulties arising from cramped conditions
and poor blood-flow to your extremities. In all cases please carefully follow instructions,
and before you set off on a radical path consult a physician.


The New Lexicon Webster’s Dictionary

of the English Language page 32.

Home Health Handbook: Treatments

and Alternatives Group 17 page 81.

Some Reviews and Comments

This is excellent nashah. I am saddened when I see brothers come to Jumuah with clothes that are in disrepair. For those brothers that work jobs that require them to wear workman’s clothes, I can understand, as they may not have the opportunity to change before coming. But I see many young men who do have the opportunity and don’t. But more in spirit with the article, I see so many Muslim men who dress with no care or attention to detail. This is regrettable, as we have had a tendency, at least in the indigenous expression of Islam, to cordon off our Islam to just rituals, while leaving the other aspects in a state of disarray. I was reading a piece on Willie Brown [non-Muslim], the former mayor of San Francisco in which he was once called “The Best Dressed Man in San Francisco” by Esquire magazine. I feel there is a self-esteem issue at play amongst us Muslims, which manifests in a variety of ways, but this is certainly one of its symptoms.

wa alakum Al-Salaam Marc&Hello everyone,

Top-shelf post muslimfitforlife.There’s not much from Quran or Hadith that I could think of that you didn’t already include.
There’s an old American colloquilism that says “clothes make the man, this isn’t entirely true,epecially if we adorn ourselves out of a sense of arrogance.
But,folks..it doesn’t have to be that way,and this is why i enjoy this post so much.
Grooming,dress,physical fitness,eating habits,and especially MANNERS are topics which seem to be woefully missing from our lectures and discussions as Muslims today.
What’s particularly sad to me is that when I devoloped an interest in Islam,prior to conversion,over 20 years ago,it seemed like the Muslim men that I met had it so together in almost all of these areas.
AND,not only that,they pulled it off while acting humble,AND very masculine at the same time!!!
(how about that)
Folks,this isn’t to hard if ya think about it a little.we are naturally more attracted to places,things,and people who seem attractive,intelligent,efficient,and probably most important for males:CONFIDENTLY COOL:YET POLITE!(it can be done,and that’s a big reason I emraced Islam-in addition to the obvious Truth of the Qur an and Hadith).
Peace,Mercy,and Blessings(Tranquility),

Willie Brown was as sharp as a tack,good point Marc!
This is kind of funny for me to admit,but I imagine that I’m not alone on this one.
When I was in my teens,and even before,I thought that male clergy members and politicians were the smoothest dudes around(and for the most part they are).
I would say things to myself like “these are men that men want to be like,and women want to be with!” hahaha
That’s not a bad thing though,necessarily.We need to always check our intentions and only fear Allah ultimatly;but,if we want to “win hearts and minds”,we NEED to put our best selves forward in every way..for the sake of Allah!

Sorry I haven’t stopped by in a while but have been reading the blog from my emails alhamdulillaah great reads and great wisdom!
Funny I was reading the clothes post last week just before my interview at a corporate law firm. From a sister’s perspective if I may I believe power dressing is hugely important in business and cultural environments in a society whereby everyone is concerned with outward appearances and is amazing how Islamically you can have beauty outwardly and inwardly subhanAllaah.

A few tips for the sisters after noticing that quite a few of my barrister friends wore triangle hijabs. I opted for this for the interview and it does look a lot smarter than the pashmina. Primarily I wear the abaya but try to wear a suit jacket or smart cardigan to complement it. Long smart tunics and smart dresses and skirts also work a treat for sisters like myself who feel quite compromised in western business settings and often you are the ONLY hijaabi!
Also whether it be for casual or smart . I now try going for scarves that don’t need ironing and are fashionable creased – as it saves so much time alhamdulillaah!

I don’t know about the clergymen”perhaps its a sign of ‘holiness’ that supposedly attracts these ‘women’ you are talking about but yes smart attire on politicians or your average Joe Bloggs still looks better on the eye!

Well alhamdulillaah I did get the internship at the law firm, so thank you for the nasiha, now I need to work on that thing called TIME, inshaAllaah it’ll happen – du’aas please.
Also perhaps when you get the chance – there could be some discussion on recreational activities and exercise. I recently started kickboxing and alhamdulillaah find it very beneficial especially as its at a sisters only gym.
Perhaps there could be encouragement of the Prophetic Sunnah activities such as archery, horseriding etc

JazakumAllaahu khair,

Ps – if people are based in London would it be possible to recommend places and things to people inshaAllaah? I pray you continue to benefit us even more, ameen.


On Dressing Well

O Children of Adam: Wear your beautiful apparel at every time and place of prayer. Quran 7-31.

According to a hadith narrated by the great Sahabi Ibn al- Hanzaliyyah, the Prophet (S.A.W.) told his Companions, when they were travelling to meet some brothers in faith:
“You are going to visit your brothers, so repair your saddles and make sure that you are dressed well, so that you will stand out among people like an adornment, for Allah (S.W.T.) does not love ugliness.” Reported by Abu Dawud, al-Hakim in al-Mustadrak.
I believe that dressing well is an important part of Muslim character. Personally I put a lot of emphasis on my appearance. I particularly like the hadith that instructs us to make sure our clothes are clean and that we look good as believers. Surprisingly many Muslims think that they should not pay attention to their outer appearance. I am not sure what is going on here, but perhaps they are thinking;” I don’t have nothing to do with dunya.” I believe it is un-Islamic for us to neglect our appearance in the name of asceticism or humility. If you are active in dawah, I can tell you that your appearance has everything to do with how you are perceived. Our Prophet (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) was the epitome of asceticism and humility yet he dressed well and was very particular about his appearance. When he (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) looked in the mirror he made this dua; “O Allah, just as you have made my external features beautiful, make my character beautiful as well”. (Hisnul Hasin) Also here is another favorite of mines; Ibn al-Mubarak, al-Tabarani, al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi and others report that ‘Umar (R.A.A.) said:
“I saw the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.) ask for a new garment. He put it on, and when it reached his knees he said, ‘Praise be to Allah, Who has given me clothes with which to cover myself and make myself look beautiful in this life.’”
Personally I wear suits or business casual clothing most of the time. Alhamdulillah, I can not begin to tell you how many compliments I get from non-Muslims. I am also active in dawah at work and in my business. Allah knows best, I think my attire has helped me break the ice many times in the business world. I have seen Muslims come to Jumuah wearing jeans with holes and a T-shirt. Haven’t they heard the saying of the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam), “What is wrong when each one of you specifies a certain garment for Friday prayer other than what he wears at work.” (Abu Daud) And from one of the wealthiest companions of the Prophet; ‘Abdul-Rahman ibn ‘Awf (R.A.) used to dress in a cloak or garment that was worth four or five hundred dirhams (Tabaqat Ibn Sa‘d, 3/131), and Ibn ‘Abbas bought a garment worth one thousand dirhams and wore it (Tabaqat Ibn Sa‘d, 3/131). Some of the best Sahabi dressed well and drove nice camels :) . And in case you thought that if you began to pay close attention to your clothes, you would become arrogant…. Muslim reports from Ibn Mas‘ud (R.A.) that the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:
“No one who has even an atom’s-weight of pride in his heart will enter Paradise.” A man asked him, “What if he likes his clothes and shoes to look good?” (Meaning, is this counted as pride?) The Prophet (S.A.W.) said: “Allah (S.W.T.) is beautiful and loves beauty. Pride means denying the truth and looking down on other people.”
Dressing well is a confidence booster. It’s important to feel good about what you are wearing and look poised and self assured in all situations. Yes, something as simple as how you dress can affect your attitude and confidence. How you dress is somehow related to how you feel. You can boost your attitude, self-confidence and feel good about what you’re wearing if you:
1. Know the occasion
2. Know your audience
3. Know your personal style
4. Know the effects of color

So if you can afford it, run out and revamp your wardrobe. You can also add on to what you have already. You can visit some online fashion stores and blogs to get some ideas about the latest fashions. You may also be able to better coordinate what you have. Make sure that your clothes are iron very well and that you always look nice, neat and sharp. You are representing Islam!